{"id":3945,"date":"2019-11-18T21:47:47","date_gmt":"2019-11-19T05:47:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/stylemesenseless.com\/?p=3945"},"modified":"2021-09-04T02:10:51","modified_gmt":"2021-09-04T02:10:51","slug":"the-attitude-of-gratitude","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thestarlightmystic.com\/?p=3945","title":{"rendered":"The Attitude Of Gratitude"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align:justify;\">In last week&#8217;s post I talked about how important it is to prioritize &#8220;me time&#8221; as a mom. \u00a0I believe self-care is critical to survival, even more so when you have the added responsibility of children. \u00a0Self-care is <strong>not<\/strong> selfish, but just like everything in life there&#8217;s a flip side. \u00a0Say I want to take a Saturday morning yoga class, or treat myself to a hot stone massage as part of my wellness routine. These little luxuries (which were taken for granted pre-baby) are not always easy to achieve. \u00a0If I&#8217;m gone for an hour or two who&#8217;s watching my daughter? \u00a0Fortunately my husband is very hands-on and doesn&#8217;t mind hanging with our little one if I need some quiet time. \u00a0On a Saturday morning he could easily say (as I know some men do) sorry I worked all week long and I&#8217;m tired so it&#8217;s my time to rest. \u00a0But instead he steps up. \u00a0And this is where gratitude enters the picture&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-3960\" src=\"https:\/\/stylesexandsou.wpengine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/luisa101019_brittnimoten-153.jpg\" alt=\"Luisa101019_BrittniMoten-153\" width=\"4769\" height=\"7146\" \/><!--more--><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-3958\" src=\"https:\/\/stylesexandsou.wpengine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/luisa101019_brittnimoten-128.jpg\" alt=\"Luisa101019_BrittniMoten-128\" width=\"4682\" height=\"3125\" \/><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-3963\" src=\"https:\/\/stylesexandsou.wpengine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/luisa101019_brittnimoten-186.jpg\" alt=\"Luisa101019_BrittniMoten-186\" width=\"4912\" height=\"7360\" \/><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align:justify;\">For many years I contemplated this word without really understanding its value. \u00a0But over time I&#8217;ve come to realize that gratitude is about being appreciative for what you do have and for the little things that other people do for you. \u00a0It&#8217;s about training your mind to focus on the positive and to stop obsessing over what&#8217;s lacking. \u00a0I&#8217;m grateful for having a comfortable house and great neighbors I can rely on. \u00a0I&#8217;m grateful for my mother who plays an active role with her granddaughter. I&#8217;m grateful for my husband who recognizes the hard work I do as a stay-at-home-mom. \u00a0I could fixate on the fact that I don&#8217;t have the luxurious closet of my dreams, or that my mother isn&#8217;t nearby to help out more often, or that I never really wanted to be a stay-at-home-mom in the first place. \u00a0But instead I choose to acknowledge my blessings. \u00a0I&#8217;m not saying it&#8217;s easy to think this way, but I do believe it helps shift your mindset. Focusing on the positive and showing appreciation molds you into a happier person. To be honest I&#8217;m not that good at it yet, and I admire those of you who embody the spirit of gratitude.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-3954\" src=\"https:\/\/stylesexandsou.wpengine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/luisa101019_brittnimoten-199.jpg\" alt=\"Luisa101019_BrittniMoten-199\" width=\"4711\" height=\"7059\" \/><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-3955\" src=\"https:\/\/stylesexandsou.wpengine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/luisa101019_brittnimoten-203.jpg\" alt=\"Luisa101019_BrittniMoten-203\" width=\"4912\" height=\"7360\" \/><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-3956\" src=\"https:\/\/stylesexandsou.wpengine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/luisa101019_brittnimoten-207.jpg\" alt=\"Luisa101019_BrittniMoten-207\" width=\"4530\" height=\"6788\" \/><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align:justify;\">The topic of this post is timely given 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